Sex Education, when is the right age to start?
I was caught by surprise and didn’t know what to do when my 9 year old Genz Kid asked me a few “sex” related questions recently.
While walking to a bus stop, we saw two teenage girls hugging and kissing each other lips to lips in public and my Genz Kid asked, “Mummy, what are they doing? Why do they kiss each other?” I was like “Errr…” and then speechless. I really do not know how to answer him. If you do, please let me know.
On another occasion, the mobile TV on a public bus we were travelling was showing a drama series. In the show, a man has AIDS and there he goes again, “what is AIDS and how does he get infected with it? Will I get AIDS too? Is it like H1N1?” I am speechless. Am I suppose to tell him that one of the main reason people get HIV virus is when they have sex with an infected person so it’s safer if one only have one sex partner? If I do, I bet the next question from him would be “what is sex?” …. To save me from the awkward situation, it was our stop soon and I told him, “time to get down the bus.” He didn’t prompt further after we alighted from the bus so I go “PHEW”!
Now I’m seriously thinking whether we should teach our kids what sex education is about. However, even if we do, how should we start and when is the right time?
Oh yes, before I forget, there is something I think all parents should talk to their children on, i.e. certain body parts of ours are private and shouldn’t be touch by others. For boys, its penis and for girls, they are breast and virgina. I remembered this incident when Genz Kid was in K1, his school principal told me that one of the K1 students like to caress a female teacher’s breast. It was an innocent act of course, but the female teacher was quite embarrassed by the act. The principal then told all parents to cultivate the ideas to their children that certain parts of the body are private and shouldn’t be touched by others, which include children.
News articles on sex education: http://www.asiaone.com/News/Education/Story/A1Story20090601-145319.html http://www.asiaone.com/News/Education/Story/A1Story20090601-145317.html http://www.asiaone.com/News/Education/Story/A1Story20090601-145319.html
A good resource article for your pleasure reading: http://www.essortment.com/family/parentingadvice_smpl.htm