Moral Education

What had happened to the world today? The recent stabbing case, causing the death of a 19 year old Polytechnic student, by 4 youngsters (students & NS men) between the age of 19 and 21 at Downtown East, shocked me. Why are the youngsters so violent these days? Have they thought of the consequences when they did the act?

Two years later, my Z generation son would be officially be “classified” as a teenager and it naturally worried me as a mom, wondering whether he would be leading the right path.

He is following the news on this matter closely and we talked about it. I told him that the whole incident saddened me. For the boy who had died, their parents would be devastated. He was their only son! For the 4 suspects, they are at their prime age and I believe their parents are heartbroken and worried for their children. Which parents wouldn’t?

I wondered what would happen to the 4 suspects? Even if they are not facing the death penalty, they would be in jail. What would become of them after they are released from jail? Who should be responsible for this unfortunate incident? The society, the parents, the teachers or the kids themselves ?????

This incident keeps me pondering. Indeed, academic education is important; however moral education is important too. How we teach our children affect how they behave when they grow up. It would be too difficult to impart them with the right moral education when they reach their “teenage hood”, hence, it’s important for us, as a society, parents and teachers, to cultivate them with the right moral education when they are young.

The Z generation’s future are in our hand and let’s work together to ensure they grow up in the righteous way.

Article : Three men charged for Downtown East murder

Teaching Family Values

The best way to show your children about family value is not by saying but by walking the talk. This is exactly what I’m doing – by action and showing my children how I take care of my aged parents.

My 10 years old genz kid is very much aware that I am very close to my parents and I am proud to say that my brother (his jiu jiu) and I take good care of them . He knew that during my younger days, my dad (his gong gong) was the sole breadwinner and had to work very hard to earn a living while my mom (his por por) took care of us. Life was not easy and we hardly have new toys (least to mention the expensive ones). I remembered my neighbour used to play with barbie dolls and I wished I had one too but I never dare to ask for one because I knew that if I do, my dad would find some way to get one for me.

Time flies and now, we are working adults and have our own family. My genz kids know that we love and care for their grandparents. My dad had a heart attack and stroke two years ago and since then they had stopped travelling because my dad is not fit to take a plane. My mother loves to travel and recently, after making all the necessary arrangement of getting someone to care for my dad and looking after my nieces, my sister in law (his jiu ma) and I decided to bring my mother for a short shopping trip in mid September. My mother, though, didn’t say a word, is very excited and looking forward to the trip.

By us doing so, I believe we have showed a good example to our kids (including my nieces) how much we have valued family values. We are walking the talk and we hope by setting good examples for the kids, they would take good care of us when we grow old.

Myopia Control – The Atropine Eye Drops Therapy

Myopia is getting more and common nowadays.  The eyes of the Z generation are always “working” – reading, watching TV, playing games.  The only time they rest, I suppose, would be when the kids are sleeping.

As such, it is not uncommon to see children (even toddlers) wearing spectacles today.  My son, a typical Z generation, worn his first pair of spectacles when he was 5 and the power just won’t stop going up (like the stock market).

When he was 7, I started actively to look for ways to control his myopia. By chance, his pediatrician introduced me to an optometrist who specialist in myopia prevention and control management.   After detailed examination of his eyes, the optometrist recommended that I tried the Atropine Eye Drops Therapy.  This therapy is commonly used by optometrist safely to treat eye conditions such as lazy eyes and squints; but for use in myopia control, it is still something new in Singapore, I was told then.  

With the optometrist’s advice and after due considerations, we decided to give it a try.  Every night before he sleeps, a single drop of atropine eye drop is instilled in each of his eyes.  His myopia has since stabilized for the past 2 years.   He sees the optometrist half yearly for review and for replenishment of his eye drops.

So far, the only side effect I’ve observed is the glariness from the sun when he is having his outdoor activities.  The solution? I have the optometrist wrote me a letter for the school to allow him wear transition lenses. 

Of course, eye care is still the most important thing; and do consult an optometrist if you are concern with your child’s myopia.

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Is My Child Gifted?

It is common for parents to wonder if their children are gifted. 

There’s this little boy, aged 4, from my girl’s school.  He can read books that are meant for Primary 4 student.  Is that little boy gifted? I think so.  However, does it mean that he is “gifted“ in everything? I don’t think so.

I believe that all kids are special in their own way.  Even children with learning disabilities such as dyslexia could be “gifted” in their own way.  I know of a little girl who is dyslexic.  She is academically slow but extremely talented in photography.  When she takes photographs, she took them in a very “special” way.  For example, she would take a close snap of the checkers on the handbag instead of the hand bag itself.  The snap was so sharp that you can see even the finest details of the checkers. Is she talented? Yes, I think so too.

Kids may have different talents.  Some children are gifted in music, some in arts and some in sports.  It is important for us, as parents, to encourage them and help them develop these talents. Parents must realize that not all gifted children have the ability to do well academically. One child may show his giftedness in his study while the other might show his in performing arts and music.  

By the way, do you know that Einstein was four years old before he could speak and seven before he could read?   So next time before you ponder if your child is gifted, remember not to limit yourself in the academic way, your child might have hidden talent you have yet discovered 😉

Reading on Dyslexia:

Reading on Theory of Multiple Intelligences:,

Ants on an Apple

I like this phonics song.  It’s catchy and easy to remember.  You can even change the wordings to something that your child likes in order to catch their attention.  It goes like this

Ants on an Apple, “a” “a” “a”

Ants on an Apple, “a” “a” “a”

Ants on an Apple, “a” “a” “a”

“a” is the sound of “A”

Balls are bouncing, “b” “b” “b”

Balls are bouncing, “b” “b” “b”

Balls are bouncing, “b” “b” “b”

“b” is the sound of “B”

Caterpillar is  crawling, “c” “c” “c”

Caterpillar is crawling, “c” “c” “c”

Caterpillar is crawling, “c” “c” “c”

“c” is the sound of “C”

(in the video, it’s Caterpillar coughing, “c” “c” “c”)

Dogs are digging, “d” “d” “d”

Dogs are digging, “d” “d” “d”

Dogs are digging, “d” “d” “d”

“d” is the sound of “D”

(in the video, it’s Dolls are dancing, “d” “d” “d”)

See what I mean, it’s a fun and entertaining way for young children to learn their phonics.

Link to the Phonics Song –

A mother’s feeling – My Son has Grown Up

Do you have this sudden feeling that your child has grown up …

Well, I do.  Recently my child went for a school trip to Malaysia and he was all so excited.  He packed his own bag on items he needed to bring, did a checklist of things he needed to do during the trip and went to bed early the night before and set his alarm clock to ring at 5.15 am so that he won’t oversleep and be late for the “big” day.   All so impromptu without any tinker from the parents.

I recalled a week before the “big” day, I jokingly asked if I could go with him, promised that I would stay a distance away from him, just to make sure he’s okay and not mantle into “business” he needs to do.  It’s a firm “No, no parents are allowed!”.  When I teased him that I would be tagging along after all as a parent volunteer, he gave me that “oh no, you are not!” look.  It’s kinda of funny but suddenly, I felt that my little boy who used to like to do everything with mummy has grown up. 

Well, we still do things together – sports, WII, watch TV, read but soon (and I mean real soon), he would start to prefer to do all these with his friends and very soon, I would start missing my little boy, the Mommy’s Boy.

4 Ways to Strengthen the Bond With Your Children

Few things are more important in life than the bond you share with your children. If you lack a close relationship with your kids, the bond can be a source of pain and anguish, while a strong connection with your kids can bring incredible joy and happiness.

If you’ve lost the closeness that you crave, you can strengthen the relationship in four practical ways.

Help Them With Homework

Help your children with their homework to show them that you’re interested in their education. This also lets them know that they can rely on you when they need help. The message you send is that they’re more valuable to you than anything else you could be spending your time doing.

Life is hectic and time is short and, one day, the time to develop this bond may be gone. Seize the day by taking the time to help your kids with their homework. If you do this on a regular basis, you may find the conversation wandering away from homework to topics that give you a glimpse into what’s most important to your kids.

Share Their Interests

Join your kids in activities and interests that they choose. Children naturally gravitate toward projects and activities they’re interested in, so ask questions about the activities they choose to engage in! Become curious about what makes them tick, and let them know that you’re curious. Fuel their passion and draw them close to you by sharing in what they love.

Find Common Interests

If you feel like you have nothing in common with your children, try to expose them to something that you really care about. Introduce them to your passions in a kid-friendly way and make the activity as fun for them as possible, while sharing your interests with them.

Often, your enthusiasm and interest in your children will cause them to become interested in the things you like, but be willing to accept that they may not enjoy the same things you do, no matter how hard you try. The closeness you experience when you share something you both enjoy is exhilarating.

Most lifelong passions start at childhood. Many passions are handed down from generation to generation. If you desire a lifelong closeness with your children, introduce them to the things you care about. Involve them and stir their curiosity, while communicating acceptance and love no matter what their interests may be.

If you aren’t sure where to begin, try one of these activities:

* Take your children fishing.
* Take them to your favorite team’s sporting event.
* Take them shopping at their favorite store.
* Try a mommy or daddy date with a meal at your favorite restaurant (or theirs).
* Show them your favorite (age-appropriate) movie.
* Read a favorite book together.

Frequently, the activity itself isn’t what children remember. The time you spend with them creates the memory. Your availability and interest are the two most important factors in creating the close relationship you deserve with your children.

Include Everyone

With one child, it’s fairly easy to incorporate the entire family in activities that strengthen the bond between you. If you have more than one child, however, remember to spread your attention and activities among them as evenly as possible.

A little effort goes a long way. Just make an effort, and your children will see that you really do want a close relationship with them more than anything else. Most importantly, begin today! It’s easier to create bonds with your children that last forever when they’re younger. Make your children a priority, and you’ll be rewarded with a bond that will last a lifetime.

Affirmation: Staying home with my children

I delight in staying home with my children.

My choice to stay at home with my children is something I am proud of. Although draining at times, I am committed to doing the best job I can at raising my children.

My calling as a parent is to nurture my children socially, emotionally, spiritually, and physically. For me, staying at home is the best way to fulfill that purpose. My life’s devotion is to foster a healthy home for my whole family.

I am grateful for the blessing that I have to spend my days watching my children flourish before my very eyes. I am present in my children’s lives to witness every new accomplishment. I celebrate their triumphs and help them overcome constraints.

Staying home gives me the opportunity to teach my children about life just the way I want to. I am able to pass on family ideologies and spiritual beliefs to secure their identity.

I appreciate my spouse’s support for my choice to stay home. My spouse works hard for me to have the privilege of staying home. While my spouse works hard outside of the home, I work hard at home to teach our children.

I am accountable for the time I have at home. My time is spent on educational activities and outings with the kids. I refrain from wasting time on idleness. The television, computer, and even household chores, fall second to taking care of my children.

Today, I celebrate my ability to stay home. I am free from guilt about not having a full time job outside of the home because staying home with the children is a full time job of its own.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. Do I ever feel guilty about staying home?
2. How can I maximize my time at home with my children?
3. Why do I love staying home with my children?

Inter-Disciplinary Project Work (“IPW”)

What does it mean when your child told you that he is having IPW week in school instead of his usual class routine?

“IPW” stands for Inter-Disciplinary Project Work and it seems that our primary schools are putting in more effort in promoting inter-disciplinary learning today. IPW allows students to understand a subject or topic in depth not through individual learning but through team work. Through research, discussion and brainstorming, it hopes to allow students to see things from different viewpoints.

According to my son, this is how I think IPW works:

  • Grouping of members followed by appointment of leader by the team members.
  • The team brainstormed on the topic they want to research and write on. 
  • Once the topic is decided, roles are assigned to individuals (e.g. editor, reporter, researcher).
  • The team then works on the timeline & deliverables.
  • Team members start work on their respective areas. • When at home, team members continue to do research (e.g. surfing the web).
  • At next meeting, team members shared with one another on the information and materials they have collated. 
  • Team leader is to check and ensure timelines & deliverables are on track. 
  • Team to submit write up and do presentation on project on D-Day to teacher and class.

Sounds pretty similar to what we have done during our school days right? Yes indeed, just that the children today start to “work” earlier.

How to Hold a Pencil

How to Hold a PencilMy friend who is in the teaching profession sent me this picture when I told her that my girl’s teacher commented that my girl was not holding her pencil in a right way. This picture clearly indicates the way we should hold a pencil and what we should avoid to do when holding one. In case you are keen, here you go … the correct method of holding a pencil. Cheers!