Right-Handed Mom And Left-Handed Child

As far as I’m aware, we do not have family history of any left-hander. You can imagine my surprise when Genz Dad and I realized that our then 18 months old girl is a left-hander. We are in a dilemma; shall we “force” her to become a right-hander or let nature take its course? Anyway, the old folks had this saying, “left-handed child is of disadvantage in the right-handed world.” After due consideration, we decided to go for the 2nd option, i.e. let nature takes it course.

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Since then, I’ve done some reading on left-handed child through internet. I even brought a book by the title of “Your Left Handed Child” by Lauren Milsom.

The book provides a very good insight of a left-handed child in a right-handed world. You will not only find many good picture illustrations that clearly demonstrate the common pitfalls faced by the left-handed children but also suggestions to overcome these problems. If you are a right-handed parent with a left-handed child, I would strongly recommend you to read this book.

A right-handed parent does not mean your child must be right-handed too. It’s not easy, I must say. There are many considerations to be taken into when a right-handed parent deals with her left-handed child.

Some of the experiences I have encountered are:

* There was this incident when I was helping my daughter wearing her shoes. She was standing hands-free when I lifted her left leg while trying to wear her right shoe for her. Then oops, she fell down. I forgot that she is a left-hander and her preference is to wear her right shoe first so she could support herself with her left foot. Fortunately, it was not a nasty fall.

* I used to feel awkward when holding her little left hand with my big right hand when we draw together. I have later learnt that it is more efficient to sit facing her instead of behind her (by the way, it’s also easier for your left-handed child to mirror your action, such as tying shoe lace when you sit facing her).

* As the children in her weekend playground class are mostly right-hander, I need to constantly remind her teacher that she is a left-hander as she has the tendency of holding my girl’s right hand when guiding her to draw or trace.

Still pondering the question whether you should train your left-handed child to a right-handed one? Well, I hope by sharing this with you, it would help you make a better decision.

Children have stress too!

Just a few days ago, my 9 years old son asked me if it was more stressful to work than study. Sensing something wasn’t right; I asked him if something was bothering him. He replied gloomily, “Mommy, I feel that I can’t breathe, why is there so much homework everyday?”

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Indeed, we live in a competitive environment today. Parents nowadays have high expectations of their children and by trying to do what they think are the “best” for their children, they have indirectly impose stress on them.

Ok, I admit, I am guilty myself! I have a smart boy and because he is bright, I have high hope of him. I want him to do well in school and unknowingly, I am inflicting stress on him. Now, I’m keep asking myself, am I doing this for him or for myself?

Stress by itself is not a bad thing. Having the right amount of stress can motivate a child to strive towards his goals. Stress becomes DISTRESS when it is overwhelming. At any stage in life, there is bound to be some stressful events and as they grow from one phrase to another, they will be put in new situations with new challenges and this would again lead to stress.

We as parents cannot eliminate the stress our children are going to face but what we can do is to teach them how to deal with it. However, before we can even do that, we need to understand and do one thing ourselves. We as PARENTS need to set realistic expectations on our children based on their ability and not ask for anything more than they can handle. I know it is easier said than done but then again, we want our children to have a happy and memorable childhood, wouldn’t we?

I’m trying and I hope you are too……

For more reading, visit: http://kidshealth.org/parent/emotions/feelings/stress.html

Learning through Play – Preschooler

Young children learn best through play. My 2 years old girl likes to use her head to hit the ball (like a footballer).  She would first throw the ball in the air, jump up high and use her head to hit the ball.  Seems easy to you?  Well it takes her a few days before she master the skill.

Play allows the children to find their way to the big world in a fun way.

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Research has shown that children’s brains develop better when they engage in interactive activities instead of rote learning.

The following scenario might sound familiar to most parents.

Your child invites you to a tea session and asked, “Mommy, would you like to have something to drink? I have milk, coffee, tea, milo, …..”

You replied, “Well, maybe a cup of tea, please.”

“Big cup or small cup, mommy?” she asked again.  “Big one” you replied.

Seem pleased with your answer, she happily starts preparing your BIG cup of tea.  After she was done, she cautioned you to be careful and that your BIG cup of tea was hot before handing you the BIG cup of tea!

Amazing isn’t? Through play, they have learnt that tea (i) can come in BIG cup or SMALL cup; (ii) is hot and you need to be careful when you drink it.  Similarly, when your child is playing with her cooking set, she is given the opportunity to learn the different types of cooking utensils.

Through play, children are given the opportunity to learn and explore their world. They develop their motor skills, creativity, intelligence and interpersonal skills through play.  It is important for children to play, so next time your child invites you to play with them, say yes and go along with their “plot”.  Who knows, you might end up enjoying yourself and learn something through play too!

For more reading, visit http://www.literacytrust.org.uk/talktoyourbaby/play.html